It`s Okay to be Yourself!

Its Okay to be Yourself!!

“Have you seen yourself becoming the patient of Anxiety and Depression when putting in the race of following others?”

“Have you been forced by your surroundings including your kith and kin to be someone you are not?”

“Have you seen yourself in the struggle of becoming someone which the society portrayed as someone stronger, smarter, wealthier and fair in skin color than you?”

“Have you seen yourself and your Community becoming the victim of Racialism and Sexism?”

                    If these are your life stories and you are the victim of such stupid standards and scales, then know one thing…you are not meant to live a life of other and struggle to be someone you are not…Its okay!! Its okay to be yourself!!

Feeling nervous and perplexed…?

It`s Okay in a situation where you feel yourself becoming nervous and perplexed. It`s okay when you cannot handle things appropriately. Its not necessary to be strong all the time. You are not a Robot.

Feeling pressured by society to behave in a certain way…?

These are the phenomena of everyday life of not only males, females but also for trans people. This is the topic on which chapters and chapters can be written and this issue cannot be summed up. The problem lies in the fact that:

 “Human Beings are caged and the dilemma is…they cannot or they don`t want                                  to see it”

Do you know why?

Because they always point out to others for their misbehaves and their acts and never see themselves as becoming one, they call “Sick society or Bad society”.

Humans are caged in their own emptiness, self-created egos and false impressions of being perfect. In these cages, not only they are by themselves, they also drag others in them and then say the same thing “This society is worse”

There are many Naked truths to prove this point:

1.      1) “Boys don`t cry…” this is Normalization not a truth.

This phrase of society has made men so caged that even they are so grieved they can`t have right to cry. Otherwise the are considered coward and silly. They are also compared to women if they cry. So, being this pressured by society, they become such rigid that they learn to be someone the are not. They beat women and behind this there is women in the shape of his mother who have taught him to be that rigid. Ah…!!how pathetic!! The antidote for this is to let males behave the way they want to…Let them cry if they are grieved, they are humans after all. Its okay if they cry, if they feel scared, if they feel nervous. Don`t put them in the cage of stereotypes!!

2.   2)  Girls can`t say “No”. They have to be voiceless in patriarchal society.

This is also the dilemma in patriarchal society that girls can`t say no to anyone specially to their men in the form of Husband, brother, father etc.

They have their voice and they can say “no” if they want to eat cookies instead of diet food, they can`t be dolls all the time.

They can say “no” if they want to be Pilot, Engineer, and anything if they don`t want to be doctor.

They can say “no” just like men that they want to marry the person they like.

They can say “no” to be treated as property and not a human being.

 Society!! Its okay!! These are not Taboos!!

Embrace your Women with proud the way your embrace your Men. 

 

3.    3)  “Trans can`t be considered human beings…”

This is such a shame of the society that I feel myself totally involved in this as sadly I am also the part of this society. I can`t end suffering of those human beings who are not allowed even to call themselves “Human beings”. They are considered as having no gender, no religion, no feelings, no right to life.

Society! Its okay to call them Human the way call them human!

Otherwise you are worse than that. Seriously…!

4.      “wealthiest is always right…”

5.      “Poor are thief and criminals…Must be beaten and punished”

6.      White is superior to black and Arab is superior to Non-Arab”

These are some of the other Naked truths which compel men to always chase towards these characters that they are not and also drag them to stay away from that stereotypes which society considers as taboos…!!

This is why you always feel anxious and become the patient of anxiety and depression when society which is no one but people always follow fake ideas and compel their loved ones to become for instance,

That smart which they are not…!

That wealthy which they are not…!

That white which they are not…!

That successful which they are not…!

That robots which they are not…!

And finally,

That society which they are not…!

This could be much better and life be a living Paradise if instead of issuing such big expectations and imposing such silly stereotypes, they accept people as they are…

Just like sky accepts the sun, moon and all stars as they are all good in their own selves…!

Just like all finger prints that are unique in themselves…!

Just like all fingers that are not equal but equally good in their own selves…!!

Don`t push people…

Just say;

 Its Okay…. 

Its okay to be yourself…!!